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How to be a good friend

Maintaining a strong friendship isn’t always simple, but doing so is well worth the effort. Happy, strong, and meaningful friendships can only be found among people, not on social media or in the pursuit of popularity. Even when you want to build new or strengthen your existing connections, it’s important to put in the time and effort to become a good friend to others.

 

Having good friends is necessary

When you are with wonderful pals, you feel good. Friendly comments and well-wishes boost your self-esteem. It is nice to have excellent friends.

 

Buddy supporters help each other

An excellent buddy will be there to support you if you are feeling depressed. A good buddy will be there to lend a hand if you need it.

 

Friends don’t necessarily have the same values, interests, or philosophies

No two people are alike, and everyone has their own hobbies and interests. A good buddy will support you even if you don’t enjoy the same things, since they’ll help you focus on things you do like. You should have a nice buddy. She will understand that you may do things on your own, and will appreciate doing the things you have in common with her.

 

A good buddy really listens

A good buddy gives you the freedom to communicate without being interrupted. They want to learn more about what you have to say.

 

Friendship is built on trust

When you confide in a good friend, they will not reveal it. Good friends aren’t judgemental.

 

Good friends deal with disagreements in a sensitive and socially-accepted manner

Even if you and your friend disagree about anything, you’re still friends. You may have also irritated your friends.You should be able to trust the people in your life with your feelings. You can trust your best buddy because they’ll be sorry and promise not to do it again.

 

Good friendships should be mutually beneficial

If one of you is doing all the talking and the other is doing all the listening, the friendship is probably not that great. It is important to cultivate close relationships, since excellent friends are more likely to make each other feel good than for one friend to get all the compliments and the other to give them all the time. The true essence of a good friendship is making each other feel good.

 

Counting on/gambling on the support of a group of friends

When you have just one “best buddy,” don’t limit yourself. Your friendship is distinctive and valuable because you can pass it on to everyone you meet who is in need of friendship. Sometimes, people drift away or get out of touch with each other. This is part of being human. When you have more than one buddy, you have someone who will be there for you when you need aid. Find new individuals to share friendships with with our tips on making new friends.

Signs of A Good Friend

You have friends that you keep and friends that you make.A true friend will accept you for who you are, no matter how long your connections last. People who genuinely care about you are those who are also willing to demonstrate it by their actions—big and little things.

 

A good friend is:

  •       A reliable and respectable pal.
  •       No matter what you go through, it is there for you.
  •       They will not have a negative opinion of you.
  •       doesn’t put you down or purposely inflict emotional pain.
  •       is kind and treats you with respect.
  •       is someone you love working for.
  •       is dependable
  •       This person will always be truthful with you, even when it’s difficult for you to hear.
  •       I’ll join you in your chuckle.
  •       Persistence in the face of adversity
  •       is capable of making you grin.
  •       There is a place where you can listen to it.
  •       makes you feel better when you weep

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Trustworthiness

A promise must be kept. Promises should not be made unless you intend to keep them. If you say you’re going to hang out with a buddy, and then something happens that gets in the way, then talk about it. If you simply can’t make it, give your buddy something and apologize. There is no such thing as perfection, and it’s perfectly OK to violate a promise once in a while, but don’t make it a constant occurrence. This is likely to be viewed as untrustworthy in the long term. Your word is essential to a friend. Don’t honor a commitment only to retain a friendship.

To prove that you are serious about your commitment, look your friend in the eyes and speak clearly to indicate that you mean what you say. To keep a promise, don’t violate it, as that will cause your buddy distress. Your friendship may be severely damaged.

 

 

Dependability is essential

The single most crucial thing about being a good friend is being dependable. In times of hardship, you will need to be there for your friends. Real friendships are formed because others want to be friends with you, not because you want to be friends with them. It is difficult to trust someone who does not act consistently and reliably. When we are aware of such well-intentioned yet flaky folks, we know to address them directly and say, “Okay, I will…” The trust you’ve earned from your friends will go, as they no longer believe what you say.

You should not promise to do anything you’re not confident you can accomplish, because you will most likely flake out on your commitment. Don’t say that you’re unsure, say that you’re uncertain instead.

When the going gets rough, you can always depend on your pals. You’ll only be a fair-weather friend if you only hang out with them when things are going well.

 

 

When you have done something wrong, apologize

You cannot pretend to be faultless in order to gain your friends’ trust.Owning up to your mistakes makes you feel better and prevents more errors. While your friends may not like that you made a mistake, they will applaud your maturity and the ability to own up to your mistakes instead of attempting to pass it off as someone else’s fault.

There’s no reason to say you’re sorry if you don’t mean it. Don’t fool your pals by pretending you don’t care about their feelings. Also, you should really mean it, and you should take the time to explain to your friend how you feel guilty and want to put things back the way they were.

 

 

Even if it means exposing yourself, allow yourself to be exposed

To build and maintain trust, be honest about your feelings, behaviors, and opinions regarding your friendship. To establish direct contact with your friends, you must be honest about how you feel and allow yourself to be vulnerable about your feelings.When someone you care about causes you pain, don’t be afraid to speak up; if something bothers you, don’t be afraid to bring it up with the person you care about.

It’s not the same thing to be honest, and not say something so brutal that you your friends. If you suspect your friend has a drinking problem, for example, you should feel obligated to bring his or her problems to light.But if you believe your friend’s new outfit makes her appear a little odd, then you should refrain from commenting.

Don’t put it on the air. People with whom you connect at a deep level have a higher chance of staying friends over time. You can be yourself around others if you invest in them. True friendship will survive only if your actions are honest. If you tell the truth, even if you fear your buddy might disagree, your friend will respect you.

 

 

Respectfully disagree with your buddy

It’s alright to speak out when a buddy reveals anything that makes you uncomfortable or disagrees with your viewpoint. Tell your friend why you feel the way you do and what you think. If you want to debate with your peers, be sure you’re being courteous when you express your views.

When you start to feel agitated, be aware of the sensations you are experiencing, as well as any bodily reactions you are having. Respecting oneself will make it simpler to respond in a polite manner when you’re calm.

Gain an insight into your friend’s perspective by having a curious attitude and a willingness to learn more.

Be courageous when you speak your thoughts. It is hard to disagree with a friend, especially if they are nasty or say hurtful things.

 

 

Do not make use of people

It’s difficult to keep a buddy who thinks you are simply exploiting them. Placid friendships don’t come about by wishing that the popularity of someone else or their network will rub off on you. Just entering into a specific clique will not make you a buddy. In fact, your superficial engagement will quickly disclose your true motives.

Also, having a reputation for taking advantage of others means that prospective associates aren’t eager to form a relationship with you.

A friend is someone who can provide and receive support. Friendship may come as a result of your friend giving you a ride to school every day, but reciprocity is essential.

 

 

Don’t switch allegiances

What your buddy told you should be kept in confidence, just as you would want your friend to maintain confidence. Don’t gossip about your friends, and don’t bring up anything he or she has confided in you privately.Nothing you say about your buddy is your own idea; if you can repeat it to their face, you should. Loyalty is paramount when it comes to your genuine friends, but if new friends, or individuals you don’t know, start spreading rumors about your friends, be prepared to defend them.

Not only is maintaining a loyal relationship important, but also recognizing the significance of a long-term and steadfast bond. You can spend all your time hanging out with your new boyfriend or girlfriend or a fantastic new person you have just met, but don’t toss out your things simply to do that. Friends may feel left out if you don’t invite them to the party.

If you’re known to be a blabbermouth or a gossip, your friends will discover this and they’ll shun you, since they’ll want to avoid sharing personal information with you in the future or having you as a friend.

Neither should you allow people to say terrible things about your friends. You should consider what your friend has to say before forming your own opinions. “You can believe I would never say or do anything like that.” “That doesn’t sound like them. Please, speak to them and see if they have any thoughts about this. “Thank you for your patience until then.”

 

 

Maintain proper demeanor

Your good friends are those who are open and mutually supportive of each other. Respect your friends’ choices and be willing to learn more about them.The best way to earn a friend’s trust is to allow your buddies to voice ideas that you may not like, or to discuss fresh ideas with them. Your relationship won’t be appreciated if your buddy feels you’ll knock down any unique or innovative ideas they might have.

Because you respect your buddy, you will offer him or her the freedom to talk, and to do so without the appearance of being judgmental.

Listen respectfully and be open to viewing things differently when you don’t see eye to eye with your buddy.

 

 

Making an effort to include your friends

Friends should never feel left out. Being a good friend is comprised of doing a lot of things, but this one action is crucial. You should never make your buddies feel left out. Even if you do wind up with a partner or start dating, it doesn’t imply you’re done with them. If your crush ends up dating someone else, don’t be afraid to ask your pals for support. Your pals will be there for you if you’re going through heartbreak. You can count on your buddies to stand by your side when you are in trouble with the cool kids in class. It’s just as important to remember to be there for them, too.

 

Encouraging

Think like a philanthropist. On the other hand, one needs to show selflessness from time to time in order to be a good friend. Consider your friends’ wants and needs whenever possible.Doing acts of kindness will improve your friendship if you reciprocate the same actions with loving gestures of your own. If you acquire a reputation for being selfish and just being with your pals when you need some support, then people will know you’re not looking out for them.

Favor a buddy merely for the pure pleasure of helping, even if it comes at some expense to you.

There is a distinction between being altruistic in a certain situation and allowing others to treat you with disrespect. You may have a problem if you feel that you’re always helping your pals and get nothing in return.

Do not exploit charity, and if you are welcome, do not tire of it. Your friend has done something kind for you, so immediately return the favor. If you borrow money, pay it back as soon as possible. Go home when you’re ready.

 

 

Pay attention and be an attentive listener

As long as you allow yourself to really comprehend and encourage your buddies when they talk to you, you shouldn’t monopolize discussions. Making sure you are listening to others is as important as talking about yourself. It will be difficult for your buddy to benefit from the connection if you are monopolizing the conversation with your own sentiments. Listening creates a gap between you and your buddy, allowing your friend to feel reassured that you care.

It will be evident to others if you’re just waiting for your friend to finish speaking so you can say what you want to say.

To let your companion talk about half of the time, try to establish a balance. The fact that some individuals are more self-conscious than others means that if your friend finds themselves in a situation where they are unable to contribute, they will have a difficult time creating a good, two-sided connection.

Say something like, “Oh, I’m sorry, please continue.”

 

 

Be there for your pals when they are in need of support

You’ll have to be able to watch out for your pals when they’re having a hard time for you to genuinely be supportive. Be concerned about your friend’s well-being if he or she is trapped in a dangerous situation, such as doing drugs, having several sexual partners, or getting intoxicated at a party, and approach the problem head-on by speaking up if you’re scared.

You should never assume that your buddy can manage a difficult situation on their own; if it is in fact the precise moment when your voice of reason is needed, you may have to intervene. An issue should be reported, regardless of how uncomfortable it may make you.

Let your buddy know that you are there if he needs someone to be there for him during this difficult time. It will be simpler for your buddies to deal with their problems if they know they are not alone.

You should help your buddy discover practical answers if all your friend wants to do about the situation is to speak.

When a friend confides in you that they have an eating disorder, you could ask them whether they have considered seeking professional help, such as speaking to a medical expert. However, remember that you will also require limits. There are certain issues you can’t solve for your friends.

 

 

Assist when someone is in need

Visit your pal if he or she needs to go to the hospital. Help when their dog goes missing. You should always be ready to pick up the people you have picked up. While your friend is absent, be a good note-taker for them. When you’re geographically apart, send cards and care gifts to each other. You should go to the funeral if there is a death in your family. Demonstrate your dependability in the eyes of your friends.

Never have your friend be in the center of some type of manufactured catastrophe. It’s important to be there for each other when circumstances are tough, but your relationship must have more to it than just that.

To help a friend in trouble, you should also offer emotional support. Doing something for your buddies because you care about them and want to see them open up and allow their emotions to flow is a caring action. If they need tissues, give them a tissue and sit with them to listen. The best thing to do when you don’t know what to say is just to remain calm and comfortable.

Tell your buddy, “If things are not going to get better, do not say that everything will work out.” While false reassurance might sometimes be worse than no reassurance, saying something outright can at times be far worse. Rather, let your buddies know you are nearby and will be there for them. Above all, stay true to yourself, yet remain happy and optimistic.

The first thing you should do if your friend starts talking about committing suicide or harming others is to inform someone. Even if your friend begs you not to tell anyone, you should still go ahead and inform the others. Suggest to a friend that they speak to a helpline or expert. Before getting anybody else involved, try talking to the parents or spouses of the people you are trying to help.

 

 

Prefer well-reasoned advice

A good friend is someone who can be there for their friends when they need them, as well as someone who can offer their opinions without pressuring their friends to do what they say.Try to be kind and helpful, but don’t criticize your buddies. Just provide your support when they approach you.

Unwanted counsel should be avoided. There are times when you should allow for venting and be open to advice if it is obvious that it is desired.Never assume you have the authority to provide advice until you’ve asked first.

There are times when a close friend needs to give someone a stern talking-to to prevent them from encountering danger. Don’t make it obvious that you’re trying to teach your friend something, since this will only make your point. State the facts, then offer suggestions on how you could handle a similar scenario.

 

 

Give your companion some space when they are experiencing feelings of loneliness or despair

As a helpful friend, you must accept that your buddy may wish to spend time with you at other times. Be prepared to grant your pal personal space. Be able to recognize if your friend wants to be alone or wants to socialize with others. People shouldn’t feel the need to cling or become needy. Closeness will result in you looking like a possessive significant other, and your buddies will not enjoy it.

If your friend has plenty of other pals, don’t be envious. You are important to your buddy, and he or she appreciates you in a unique way.

Having time to socialize with friends lets you unwind and spend time together in a relaxed state, and helps you to enjoy one another more.

 

 

Have a strong bond with your friends

Forgive it as an act of mercy. Your friendship should be able to survive if you can hold a grudge and still be able to move on. Letting your hatred and animosity develop will stop you from progressing. Believe that no one is flawless, and if your buddy truly regrets their action and it was not something out of the ordinary, then forgive them. [8]

In an unfortunate event, if a good friend commits something unforgivable, you should leave the friendship to die, so you don’t waste time or energy trying to fix something that can’t be saved. However, this should occur rarely.

If you can’t bring yourself to tell your buddies why you’re upset with them, you’ll never be able to forgive them.

 

 

Allow them to be who they are

Friendship requires allowing your buddy to be who he or she is and seeing the world from his or her perspective. Make the most of your and your friends’ unique qualities.Accepting your friend’s beliefs does not mean you have to share them. Instead of expecting your friend to see things through your eyes, you should appreciate the unique perspective your friend has on your experiences.

The more you spend time with others, the less you see them as idealized versions of themselves and the more you accept the unique aspects of their personalities. It’s about really caring for one another, even if you have faults.

 

 

Be prepared to go the extra mile

You may use a friend as a procrastination tool. An excellent buddy helps you all night till the wee hours of the morning. Make an effort to be a good friend to those around you; if you are, they will reciprocate.When you see that you need to go above and beyond to help your buddy, and that your friend will do the same for you, recognize this as an opportunity to foster your connection and reciprocate by helping your friend.

You should learn to read between the lines when someone says “No, you don’t have to do anything” to know that your buddy needs you.

 

Stay in touch regardless of the situation

It’s not uncommon for people to drift apart as the years go by. There is a good chance that you and your buddy will go your own ways and only get to see each other once in a while. Time can pass without any communication. Speak out if you care. You may be sure they will be glad to hear from you. Even though you haven’t seen each other in a long time, you may discover that you have something important in common, which makes you friends.

Your relationship is only as strong as the amount of time you spend together. It is important to maintain genuine friendships even if you are on different continents.

Even if you’re in a distant time zone, set a goal of having monthly phone or Skype meetings with your friends. Frequent social interaction with someone who shares your interests keeps your relationship fresh.

 

 

Friendship should grow naturally

True friendship goes through all stages of life, which means you have to put in an effort to be a good friend. While you may have spent all of your time with your closest buddies while you were in high school, as you progressed in life, you naturally reduced the amount of time you spent chatting. You should understand that this doesn’t indicate that your relationship is weakening. Instead, your lives are developing, and your friendship is adjusting to the new situation.

It’s impossible to return to a relationship like it was ten years ago. To put it another way, it’s elastic, not rigid.

Be appreciative of the fact that, although your buddy cares for you, they will not be on call 24/7 like they were in the past.

See if you can develop and evolve your friendship in recognition of the significant changes it has gone through.

Your buddy needs to reciprocate the favor if he expects to be your friend.

Lastly

We could go on and on about the characteristics of wonderful friends for a long time. There are certain characteristics that are more significant to certain people than they are to others. Each individual must establish his or her own set of standards for what it means to be a good friend. And it implies that you, too, must demonstrate those characteristics in your interactions with your friends.

Be yourself, and seek out people who will accept you for who you are, rather than who they think you should be. Encourage one another while also acknowledging and respecting one another’s boundaries. Always look for the good in people and treat them with courtesy in your encounters. You never know when a good friend you make today could turn out to be a friend for life later down the road!

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